Meaning of Gracefulness

I keep reminding myself that I should spend rest of my life being graceful. But the word “graceful” carries some attributional problems. These attributes are related to the outward look (physical), which is not what I would like to talk about.


So, I decided to search on google and I found this:

“But being graceful and living with grace mean that you put that grace before these other emotions because grace is much more important. It means gracefully letting things go that are not meant for you. It means going beyond your inclinations of trying to get the upper hand or revenge on someone who hurt you.”


I really liked the "letting things go.." part, but rest of the presentation--such as the God’s
grace and the unpredictable “energy” of women are not the answers I was searching for!


Source:

https://www.theodysseyonline.com/talk-about-graceMar 14, 2016

Parfit's Persons

Philosophy is just some logical arguments. Some of these are more logical than others, but they're arguments never-the-less. Some of these arguments  supports some events in the past--already proven to be true--and some may turn out to be true later in time. 

The question: 

"What makes a person the same person over time?" 

And the answers:

"A person is the sum of his or her hopes, fears, and past memories; nothing else really matters--but try telling that to the pauper".

According to the source, they both fall in the same category.


Source:
Mind and Metaphysics
30-Second Philosophies

The other side of Basu Sharma

It happened on the birthday of my soulmate, the trailblazer of our families from both sides, the first professor in Canada from Nepal, and the 2018 Award of Excellence winner, Basu Sharma!!!

My husband had been serving for the Atlantic School of Business for many years. He had chaired the conference three time and coordinated many projects for the association. For all his efforts and dedication, he was recognized a Big way last night.

A part of the citation read: “In 1997, 2005, and 2015 he was the conference chair. In 2004 Basu was one of the small group of people who “helped to anchor the fledgling executive, offering experience and deep knowledge of the association” and in 2006 he became our second ever President of ASB. Apart from ASB, Basu also served for two terms of the Executive of the Administrative Sciences Association of Canada in the late 1980s and helped to establish the Management Education Division…”.

Everybody thinks my husband is a true academic, but he has the “other side” they don’t know. They’ve not seen the child-like Sharma-boy!

I Remember You All

On the death anniversary of my mother-in-law, I'm remembering the three categories of people:

A good citizen who did her best to raise her children—one of which has been working hard and paying taxes to the countries he went/goes,

A woman who dedicated her entire life in making others understand what a real suffering feels like—so elegantly without showing her anger or frustrations,

And there the third category of people who live/lived their lives in anger, resentments and chose/choose a violent pathby the way of ignorance or by blaming others, or by cheating or even taking others’ life/ lives.

I remember you, but at different breaths.

Karma for people like me

This post is for people like me, who doesn’t believe in rituals but is hungry for knowledge about Karma.

"Do your duty, but do not concern yourself with the results," says Lord Krishna, according to Bhagwat Gita, verse 2.48.

Why does the lord say this? How can we motivate ourselves to do things if we can't even anticipate the enjoyment from the results? In an era where people need incentive to lift a finger, how will this work?

Lord's answers will surprise you, as they did me with these:
"A number of factors come into play in determining the results—our efforts, destiny (our past karmas), the will of God, the efforts of others, the cumulative karmas of the people involved, the place and situation (a matter of luck), etc. Now if we become anxious for results, we will experience anxiety whenever they are not according to our expectations. So Shree Krishna advises Arjun to give up concern for the results and instead focus solely on doing a good job. The fact is that when we are unconcerned about the results, we are able to focus entirely on our efforts, and the result is even better than before." These texts are copied directly from:
https://www.holy-bhagavad-gita.org/chapter/2/verse/47

BG 2.48: The verse is a very practical solution to the vicissitudes of life. If we are sailing in the ocean in a boat, it is natural to expect the waves of the ocean to shake the boat. If we get disturbed each time a wave rocks the boat, our miseries would be endless.And if we do not expect the waves to arise, we would be expecting the ocean to become something other than its natural self. Waves are an inseparable phenomenon of the ocean. Similarly, as we wade through the ocean of life, it throws up all kinds of waves that are beyond our control. If we keep struggling to eliminate negative situations, we will be unable to avoid unhappiness. But if we can learn to accept everything that comes our way, without sacrificing our best efforts, we will have surrendered to the will of God, and that will be true Yog.

Key points:

You have a right to perform your prescribed duties, but you are not entitled to the fruits of your actions. Never consider yourself to be the cause of the results of your activities, nor be attached to inaction.

On my brother's death anniversary

I grew up with my four siblings, my elder sister was married off by then. The one above me was the youngest among the three brothers. I called him Sanudai. He loved piquant chutney made from garden fresh tomatoes and herbs. So, golveda ko achar was his specialty when I was growing up.

Sanudai would often start making this achar with only a few ingredients, taste his creation by dipping one of his fingers in the sauce and savouring it on the tip of his tongue. Then, he would run to the garden and come with a few other items. By the time he finished his achar, he would make a few trips to the garden, add these new items in his achar and invent a totally new dish than when he started!

Someday sanudai roasted the cherry tomatoes in a mackkle (a coal-burning pot), half of which would be wasted—they would burst open in the fire and lose the precious juice. 

Other days, he would roast a few cloves of garlic and our kitchen would fill with garlicky smoke. Once he roasted the green chillies to go with his tomatoes. Unfortunately, everybody started coughing and my poor brother was scolded badly.😔 

But the point is whatever he did, at the end his golveda ko achar always turned out heavenly that we all loved!

Sanudai is gone, but his golveda ko achar is still in my tongue! This is one of the stories in my recipe book that I wanted to share publicly to honour him. As I edit this book, I'm thinking of him and missing terribly! Rest in peace my dear sanudai. I'm sure to meet you somedays! 💖